How can I tell if he likes me? 7 telltale Signs he really likes you

How Can I Tell if He Likes Me? 7 Telltale Signs He’s Really Into You

Dating can be so confusing. So many mixed signals and chats with your friends trying to figure out, “How can I tell if he likes me?” But when a guy likes you, you get that “aha” moment where everything just falls into place.

So if you’re wondering whether he’s interested, here are some telltale signs he’s really into you:

He contacts you regularly

Guys who aren’t that interested will text you here and there, but there will be times when they don’t text back, or perhaps you find you’re the one initiating most of the contact. They may go missing for a while and then reappear with breadcrumbs, only to disappear again. I’m sure we’ve all had situations where the guy hasn’t called when he says he will. A guy who is into you will initiated texts just so he can talk to you and he’ll have regular conversations with you. He wants to talk to you, he looks forward to talking to you and he’ll always respond.

He does nice things for you

When a guy is really into you it’s all in the little things. If he’s buying you flowers ‘just because’ or doing things just to brighten your day and make you happy then he definitely really likes you. If he remembers your favourite chocolate at the supermarket and notices what you like/don’t like, it shows he really cares and that you are in his thoughts. A guy who will do anything to make you happy is a keeper.

He listens to you

If he’s wiping your tears away when you’re upset or listening to you rant about your shitty boss, then he’s definitely into you. A guy who listens and remembers the things you say is definitely interested. Watch his body language. Is he leaning into you when you talk? Is he nodding and listening carefully on a date? Or is he distracted and checking his phone?

You’ve met his friends and family

If he’s introduced you to his friends or even his family then it shows you’re important enough in his life that he wanted you to meet them.

He spends time with you outside the bedroom

It’s easy to get sucked into a situation where you’re just having sex with a guy and watching Netflix, but not really doing much else. If all he wants to do is come over on a Friday/Saturday after a night out drinking, then it’s likely he’s only interested in a hookup. If that’s all you’re doing, it shows that he’s not really invested in spending any time with you outside the bedroom. A guy who likes you will want to do ordinary things like go for dinner with you, go to the local farmer’s market on a Sunday, or take you to a movie.

He admires you

One way to really tell if a guy likes you is to notice whether he admires you. A guy who is impressed by your intelligence and really respects you is definitely into you.

His actions match his words

For some reason, guys love to future fake. If I had $100 for every guy who’d future faked on me I’d probably be a rich woman. This is typically when a guy will talk about something that he’d like to do with you in the future, yet he never actually intends to follow through on it. So for example, he might say, “Next time we go on a date I’d like to take you to X restaurant”, yet he never actually calls for another date. He might talk about going on vacation with you somewhere, or even taking you to meet his parents. But in fact this is just never going to happen. A guy who likes you will actually follow through with what he says. If he talks about doing something, he means it. It’s not just a fantasy element.


Hi, I’m Victoria. I’m not a psychologist or a therapist, instead my relationship advice comes from real life dating experience and lessons learnt by trial and error. All the guys I’ve dated have been very different but I certainly came across my fare share of “Mr Unavailable” types, so if you find yourself in a situation with a guy who won’t commit, hopefully these stories will help.

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