Messed up and now your boyfriend has broken up with you? Wondering what you should do? If you want to get your ex back, you’re going to have to develop a strategy.
Right now you’re probably in convincing mode. You want to convince your boyfriend that you are perfect for each other and can have an incredible life together. Unfortunately, reasoning with him is the last thing you should do. He’ll only dig his heels in more.
Resist the urge to call him, resist the urge to text him, and start implementing the no contact rule right away. Next, you’ll want to start learning from the professionals, otherwise your attempts to get him back could result in pushing him further away.
James Bauer of Be Irresistible has a great program that talks you through the process of getting your ex back. The downloadable guide is well written and has plenty of practical techniques you can use to trigger his feelings.
Read on for my Relationship Rewrite Method review:
Relationship Rewrite Method by James Bauer
This great thing about this program is that it’s designed for a full spectrum of troubles, from the man who pulls away after a fight, all the way to the a full-scale breakup.
Not only that, but it’s designed to work even if he’s ignoring your calls and texts.
Even if your ex is being stubborn, James shows you how to use emotional triggers to wipe away all the painful memories from the past so that he only thinks about the magical times you had.
He also shows you how to “get your foot in the door” through one little text.
You’ll discover the exact words to say to draw him in, open him up, and form a connection that will make him see you as “the one”.
Some concepts covered in the book:
How to change his thoughts about the future of your relationship
The first section teaches you how to get him to see a positive future with you, as opposed to a negative one. Although you can’t erase memories, you CAN get him to view them differently, and you can change his personal “movie trailer” of your future together.
How to get his attention with compliments
This section discusses heuristics and the power of reciprocity. James shows you how feeling joy and being in the present moment can help you get your boyfriend back.
James also teaches you how to give a good compliment, without seeming fake or over the top. A good compliment can give him a jolt of positive emotions and make him think of you more fondly.
By taking a humble approach and showing some remorse, you can get a “foot in the door” and get him to open up.
Using the power of stories to touch his heart
The third section tells you how to tell better stories, build anticipation and influence people. In telling a better story, you can make your relationship the “hero” and make him root for it.
Asking him for a favor
Asking your ex for a favor can make him feel a certain level of emotional investment and bring you closer together. James also talks about why holding his gaze can have a large impact.
Holding your boundaries
Of course, when attempting to get your ex back, you aren’t in a committed relationship, so he needs to feel that too. He shouldn’t feel like he can have you whenever he wants. James teaches you how to keep your boundaries in place and your emotions in check until you have a proper conversation about where the relationship is going.
How to close the deal without issuing ultimatums
In section six, the author explains why ultimatums never work and how to develop your sales skills to close the deal on your relationship. You’ll learn how to draw his attention to the benefits of being with you and overcome his objections.
What I liked about it
James’s book is filled with stories and real world incidents to illustrate his points, which draws you in and makes you want to keep reading.
The book doesn’t just focus on the steps to take to get your ex back, it actually gives plenty of actionable tips that will help you improve your overall relationship and any relationships you have in the future.
This is not manipulation – it’s about understanding how men work and creating a more loving relationship second time over. The information provided is also backed by plenty of neuroscience and psychological studies.
James encourages you to build anticipation, act with discipline and not rush too quickly, otherwise it could all backfire. Focus on success and not instant gratification. He also stresses that you should adopt the idea that winning your ex back can actually be an enjoyable experience.
Sometimes certain sections (particularly the stories) are quite long-winded and I had a tendency to skim read. It also requires you to be quite pro-active, so it depends whether you’re willing to take the lead.
All in all though, I think it’s a great ex back program if you wish to rebuild your relationship in a healthy way. It’s definitely a positive method and best of all, there’s a 60 day money back guarantee, so you can’t go wrong really!
You can purchase James Bauer’s Relationship Rewrite Method here.